Every year around this time we hear people ranting about how it is a new year therefore they’re a new person- without having any goals achieved yet or a plan of how they will have tangible results. Typical. We read posts on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and other social media platforms like “new year new me” I feel that it is only necessary to drop a blog on the eve of 2017 of someone who chose to put her mouth where the money is. Someone who said “new year , new me” and meant it and has been living her dream life ever since she made the decision to turn her life around. This powerful woman’s name is Celisse Obey and I had the pleasure of interviewing her this past week.
Ally Leftridge: What are some of the challenges that you had to face this past year?
Celisse Obey: The end of my marriage was the biggest challenge. Having to become a single parent and have all/ most of the responsibilities of raising a child placed on me. You tend to try to do more and be more .
AL: would you say that it effected the way you were raising your daughter, Jayda?
CO: It was a good learning experience for me and helped me be focused on my weight loss goal journey which I exceeded. It helped Jayda push through in times of adversity and it was a life lesson for me to show her that when things happen you can’t let it get you down- you have to pull your boots up and keep pushing. I shared with her all of my goals and then once I completed them, it showed her that when you put your mind to something you get it and that was my lesson to her. Now, Jayda can look back in her life and say “My mom was strong, she did this and did that, I can get through anything. My business goal was exceeded and so were many other professional things.Then buying my house out and all lead up to this point where I’m in a good place physically, emotionally, and financially –all at one time.
AL: When did it hit you, that moment when you realized that you needed and wanted to change?
CO: Right when I knew the marriage was over, 2 years ago. I knew that I wasn’t in a good place physically and mentally and I knew that I had to make a change. I needed my confidence back. I was in a relationship where I was rejected and denied and that does a lot to your self- esteem and I needed to get my confidence back. In May of 2015 I said this is it, I couldn’t get any worse than where I was then. I was forced into having to make a change. May of 2015 was my turning point when I said enough is enough and I never looked back.
AL: What would be your advice for young women coming up?
CO: If you know there is room for improvement or things that you can do better with your life you can’t just keep saying it, you just have to do. Talking about it is just words. You have to take action towards actually doing it. If you want more for yourself the only person who’s going to do better for you is you. Handouts don’t exist you have to go for it and get yourself. The emphasis is more on getting ahead first which is great. You want to have these qualities because those are the same qualities that you look for in a partner. You can’t ask for someone who is educated and makes money and you don’t do so for yourself. You want a partner that adds value. On your own you have to save for retirement and things like that. You’re going to have to think about what you want to have and where you’re going to live. You have to be able to take care of yourself to attract someone that takes care of themselves so that you can take care each other. No person of value wants someone who doesn’t value themselves. So I needed to better myself. You have to start with you first and then that next piece about the person you want in your life will come next
AL: What’s your what’s next?
CO: My what’s next is maintaining what I’ve accomplished and continue to work and do well in my business and continue to motivate and be a mentor for my daughter and kids that I coach. And eventually find that life partner that would just make everything else complete.
AL: What does your life partner look like?
CO: Finding that person that brings to the table as much as I bring. Someone that’s trying to uplift me and not bring me down. Someone that’s going to respect me and treat me like the amazing woman that I know I am.
Happy New Year from LUNA and remember to value yourself in the New Year and forever!